I agree with almost everything you said. Tiger was not and is not a warm and fuzzy person and he probably is hard to get along with but, that should come as no surprise. Most great men and women are complex and difficult. FDR was complex as was MLK.
I believe Tiger got so much so soon that he didn't have time to figure out what was best for him. He got used to listening to other people and some of them did not always have HIS best interests in mind instead the were driven by finances. I think Tiger got too much bad advice from people around him and still gets bad advice. I don't think Tiger really has anyone to lean on besides his mother because people who could have helped him were turned away or he did not listen to them. As much as some people in the media wanted to blame Michael Jordan and Charles Barkley for Tiger's problems I read an article from a decade ago where Charles says they told Tiger not to get married and Tiger's former agent says he believes Tiger's decision was driven by money.
I don't believe Elin rushed out of the marriage. I believe she wanted to stay but the media made it difficult. When the bloggers and talking heads on tv are making comments like she is nothing but a high paid prostitute if she stays it makes it tough to stay in those circumstances. That's not to say I believe they were happy, clearly neither of them were happy but, I think she knew he was screwing around. It seems to me like they had an arrangement or an understanding to carry out the image in public but, they had their own lives privately. I remember when Tiger dated Joanna Jagoda years ago. In all the years Tiger dated and was married to Elin he never looked as comfortable around her as he did when he was with Joanna.
While I think Hank is a bi-otch for betraying Tiger's trust by writing this book. Hopefully there can be some redemption in it for Tiger. For one I hope it sparks a public dialogue about the difference in how the media treats Tiger vs. how they treat other golfers. Regardless of what Tiger's has done in the past I still believe the media has grossly unfair to him.